We don't know where or how soon that would happen, but I can assure you that you wont be on the one serving the hot dogs. Glad I'm already separated and glad I have proof of ALL the MANY lies my husband has been telling and still trying to tell. September 9, 2011 6.16am. I realized I had been lied to on a far larger scale than I suspected and she seemed to realize the same thing. If they cant give you that promise, you really dont have much to work with. The letter was not to confront but to acknowledge her pain in this mess also and to extend forgiveness. Its wrong for me to engage her lover in afight in public. E. There are better women out there. As we discussed more, I think I understand more now. Apparently she has booked an appointment to see a councillor. The marriage is between my husband and me. I contacted the AP via message. Confronting a cheating spouse is an opportunity for making things better. I don't even know if I got the full story but I got enough. First, you must prepare yourself to deal with the situation in a mature manner and you If she is spreading her legs and orifices wide for him to fine tune her plumbing on a daily basis, so be it. Or will your spouse feel sorry for his or her lover? With the hubby she is the regular loving housewife. Its your turn to return the favor. It made things a lot worse in life. She was sick It's an ego boost to your cheater. By entering your email and clicking Sign Up, you're agreeing to let us send you customized marketing messages about us and our advertising partners. It was easy for her to manipulate his schedule in order for them to spend time together. Nobody and I repeat nobody respects a doormat. Yes, bills, parenting, and life goes on. H was a truck driver and she his dispatcher. Your Anymore mistakes and I will divorce or if it comes out she lied about what really happened, doubt I will find out unless the dead man's wife tells me, then I will divorce too over the lying. I told her Gid has a plan for her life and that plan is not my husband. Confronting the affair partner is the essence of the pick me dance. Completely unfair. I have absolutely no intention of pointlessly spreading misery to other people. 2. Sofor really the first time in 38 years I am very serious in considering getting a divorce. While Ive never been in a relationship myself, Jeff, you can gain closure by looking at it from a certain perspective. Haven't you suffered enough? It hurts now, to be forced to fill the separation and see more than a bland life thrown at you without choice, but YOU can fill that hole with something new. Anyway , He did lie about most everything that I ask about and said he couldn't remember any details . My focus has been on my relationship with my wife. She likes attention and drama. What advice do you have for those us whom dont seek them, they seek us BS? She basically wanted to discuss two things. As YellowShark says she denied and denied but I didn't back down and eventually came the trickle truth. Confronting her would only bring more conflicts into our marriage thereby creating distance between me and my husband. I need to talk to my husband and sort out issues with him. I personally know of a marriage where over the years, the husband and wife no longer discuss her other relationships, and in most respect that marriage has settled back into a regular loving marriage. Im so sorry to hear things ended up this way. When devastated by my wife's adultery I responded with great naivete: I believed my wife's partial & trickle truths; in response to her blaming me I took on much too much responsibility & accepted her revisionist history of our marriage; I did not demand an immediate cessation of the affair & no contact; I did not demand she make amends. I calmly told him never to speak to my wife again. So confronting an affair partner? Start planning and executing on your plans. Angry, you bet! I sent him a letter warning him to never contact her again. You deserve better. He was shaking for our entire conversation and got the message. I believe my healing restarted every other day. There are times it doesnt come easy., the situation is complex, my sister in low is best friends with her, and knew all along, it feels as if I have been betrayed by my husband, best mate, brother and sister in low all at the same time. Do not fight around him or anything. What is your deal? Whats wrong with you? Leave the wife and go away its her fault to have her lovers all together. Get rid of her you dont need Can you give me any advice? In his case, he was young, inexperienced, wasnt raised with the values of marriage, and wasnt ready to be a dad. He is to blame because he would not say no. She will need to resolve her feelings. Yeah, there's some irony in that, huh? This girl is delusional. The choice is yoursI'm just cautioning you that infidelity this early in the marriagebefore any real problems or pressure have come to bear on heris a real bad sign. Copyright PUNCH. Made contact. We've been together for 7 years and while we've only been married a year to me she is my soulmate. Contributors control their own work and posted freely to our site. I thought she was not worth my time! I showed her pure ignorance. It seemed before that you were a boat of the rough seas, shoveling water out from the boat as more spilled aboard. My wife claimed she had told him this already. The storm has passed, the boat is in tatters but still serviceable, its time to make port and see what can be done. Why? Stop hoping, praying, reasoning, panicking, dreaming. Like my husband stood up to defend my honor, becquse we did Iit together! If the roles were reversed do you honestly think your wife would be so accepting as you have been? Every now and then she reaches out to my husband, every time it really upsets me. This is the first time in my life that Ive lived alone, and its a little exhilarating. I suppose she didnt give you the respect you deserve in that manner so Ill pick up and if youve got any questions for me nows the time to ask.". When you have all your ducks in a row, have gone past the PI phase, moved on with the evidence to an attorney, and the attorney has compiled it all together and made the initial moves and it is time to serve her the papers, you must still be nonchalant and appear ignorant about the giant moves underway. What do you think she would do if you were having an affair? lol. Shes absolutely terrified of losing her job and the respect of her family. The best solution is to talk to my husband. If cheaters can't have secret cake (the affair and the marriage), they will settle for a public pick me dance. My wife is lying to me. Like a Japanese Tsunami on steroids when she least expects it. I will not confront my husbands lover in public because if I do that, it would worsen the situation. At first I thought she must have thought I was weak by not responding, but now I realize I must have made her feel invisible and totally on the outside while my husband and I were in the inside the switching of those roles mustve been unbearable to her After all she felt like she was in the inside until she was most definitely out and I didnt let her in!!! Your mind will be torn when you are at work, thinking if your loving wife is on her knees someplace right at that moment waiting to orally satisfy that guy. Maybe that person will tell you things your partner will not. She was still in denial even though she knew. You! Let me repeat, do not confront your loving wife. We found out that my wife was just one of at least a dozen other women he had affairs with and his wife was going to confront all of them face to face. She told me because her AP's wife found out and she had confronted my wife about it at her officethe same office and job she had during her affair. Therefore, I would talk to my husband instead of creating unnecessary drama. Let her go. They don't even like for me to refer to him as their grandfather. roll out! Your heart is going to be torn to shreds, you self respect would be zero when all is said and done, and its going to leave a huge hole in your soul which would take a long time to fill, if ever. But I'm glad I can but a nail in this coffin. Oh well. And i would assume a great many of things as well. I have no idea whether they are still in touch. This single decision that you take to hire a PI, is going to save you so much time, heartache, and even money in the long run. When we met I did not confront him but rather simply asked him how it started & what it meant to him & so on. Do EVERYONE a favor and don't have kids until this is resolved. Its been so hard not knowing what she was thinking that I never responded to her ( she reached out and I ignored her) I now have a better understanding. She was one of my best friends, one that often came to my house, one that gave the first bath to my twins when I couldnt move after C section, one that for the final time came into my house to disrespect me and my children, to mix me with mud. His annoyance crossed the threshold when he saw the man responsible for everything on one of the channels. It's all good. These symptoms are typically exhibited by wives and GFs who are first time cheaters and reflects the conflicted state of their mind. And I'm glad to say that we've made great progress in healing. They were married for 17 years and he died of stage 4 lung cancer at age 60. I wonder if you read the replies there. She outsmarted you by destroying your trust, your love, and the vows you took together to love and cherish eachother till the end of timewhich lasted less than a year. Your son deserves to be in a positive environment. You should though really consider geting out - one year in, no kids = get out. You'll probably fish more information out of her that way anyhow. @PegNosePete wise words, and it seems I am indeed in the bargaining phase, although I still can't believe this is happening, up until recently we were so happy (or so I thought). To protect her. Expose the affair to the OM's wife or girlfriend 4. Dude, your "world" has already collapsed. Just what I needed to hear. It always does. There might also be some truth in it -- but how messed up is that? There can be any number of reasons, but I do suggest you try to get your mind off the affair partner and onto your own recovery - that is much more productive. We've turned a page. This has nothing to do with each others families. Really man, get some self-respect. I need nothing from him. For the last few weeks, Ive been sitting on this evidence, but tonight I finally confronted her, literally just a couple of hours ago. For some, it will be driven by a need to get the compulsion out of their head. altogether. And she had the nerve to complain that I was harassing her, because I kept asking her to stop contacting us. So, what are some factors to consider before talking to the other woman/man? 3. situation and it may even complicate matters (as mentioned above). Probably convinced her to keep working on mine. Volunteering if you have any time at all is a good way to meet and interact with a looot of people fairly quickly and give you something to focus on. His lover is not a problem at all to me. She told me that my lover had said I was just a "dumb blonde" and that we were only friends. But damn if you cant make your own meaning out of it. I will not be involved in any physical combat with anyone. Rarely have I seen any benefit; in fact, I've witnessed a great deal of harm come from those conversations. But I need him to know that I know, and to stay the hell out of our lives if we cross paths. WebTheres no point in confronting those lovers. Almost a year later, I believe she is giving up. Our experts designed this step-by-step guide to help you survive infidelity. It doesnt change the fact that my spouse will still go and have an affair with someone else. From a worldly perspective, her husband and she have a successful loving marriage. File for divorce dude. If its possible, I dont want to lose that. I'll never know for sure. What was once in the dark was now in a fluorescent spotlight. Until I did. I'm sure the tellers had their antennas tuned all the way up since we were discussing infidelity and different ways to respond. Spaces fill up quickly for this course. My initial contact with my wife's AP was to let him know the gig was up. Convince her to quit cheating, and work on the marriage? She initially said that she didn't know he was married until then, and played the fellow victim role. Should I just tell family members the truth about what happened, and let the damage fall out as it may, or should I agree with my wife to keep it a matter just between us two? Oh, did I mention that she said all of this to me after I lost my pregnancy at 5 months? (A good PI would recommend possible divorce attorneys to hire, else you could find one of your own). document.write(new Date().getFullYear()) Mine lives on our Street. E Eli-Zor Registered I sent it to his Dr.s office. This is supposed to be the happiest time of your life and she is off chasing other guys. He turned so pale, looking like he honestly thought Id never find out at all. And again, what do you hope to accomplish by calling your wifes lover? Filing for divorce. The person I have business with is my husband not her-Tobiloba Oko-Oboh. This seems cut throat, but will help you if a custody battle comes up. Not there yet. Each person has to make their own decisions, but I hope you don't cause yourself any more pain. I was friendly with her as well so I contacted her and she was stunned that my wife had told me about the affair. She used the same kinds of words my lover did; you could tell that they were a couple. Love is really just chemical responses in the brain. I wouldn't wish this misery on anyone. It took my husband 7 weeks to fully disclose what had taken place. It gives me more satisfaction to make her feel so insignificant, so little, so meaningless to me and my husband, then any blur of abuse I could ever invent and throw at her. After all her submitting to your needs and providing for you is words she herself said she would do upon agreeing to marrying you. WebPlease advise. Cheater 101 dude. Theyre the chumps, they made their choices and have to live with them. They now live the life I was supposed to have. I managed to find some deleted text messages, I feel bad for doing so, but have now found out that she has been seeing another man from work. On the one hand, by confronting her my husband finally realized what he was dealing with. The timeline had changed from a couple of years to 3 or 4 years and a couple of months ago , putting 2 and 2 together, she admitted that the affair went on for almost 20 years and that she never initiated any part of it but never could tell him NO when he would call her and set up a meeting. He came home to me / us every night anyway, I reached out in a way to let her know that I now know. And This material, and other digital content on this website, may not be reproduced, published, broadcast, rewritten or redistributed in whole or in part without prior express written permission from PUNCH. She cut and pasted photos of my husband and me she lifted from my FB profile with different photos of herself covering my face. Usually, it helps to think about what it is you really want to achieve and then devise a strategy that is ethical, honest, and non-confrontational. Even a family member, but if your spouse was your confident, you should work on that friend circle soon. Quite a few members of the forum (including myself) replied thoughtfully to your thread there but you didnt return to it. Don't make me explain it to you. Now I can see a better, clearer picture and I feel relieved and disappointed at the same time. Do you have a general question youd like to ask? I need advice on how to handle this with my wife - and if you help me I will post links to videos of her with face blurred Fairly abruptly, my wife told me she wanted a trial separation and moved out into her own apartment. So that now when I do think of one of the horrible details, all I feel is victory!!! If you've been tempted to confront the affair partner, leave it to professionals. She sent him a nasty gram including things like " I was forced to listen to her message" that she "almost felt sad for me listening to my voice" and when I asked her for "conformation of status" in my message she replied to him with "That girl has trust issues" he didn't reply. Not that she showed any real interest in reconciliation anyway. Do not tell her how you know. She has spoken to her friends about it I am sure, should I talk to them first? Your bed now. I would not normally spend time offering advise to such a post, but there was something about your words, that caused me to offer some honest words of advise. Do you really want to help him as you say you do? It would be good if you both didnt yell anyone what had happened. For me, it has helped immensely. All Rights Reserved. Besides, she will become paranoid about her texts, emails etc and leave no clues going forward, while your mind will become super-suspicious. Most lovers look forward to meeting with the betrayed spouses because they wish to add salt to their injury. Do talk to her about the situation. Tell her that you KNOWpoint blank, irrefutably. Confronting your lover's lover. I forwarded her all the voicemails he had left me, begging me to see him, telling me how much he loved me and needed me. The only thing I will do is to walk out of the marriage. Youre awesome, happythoughts. It was her that needed the meeting, I thought to myself she would not be interested in anything I have to say, her aim is that I listen to what bothers her. Id gone to the extremes of thinking about stepping out the back door of life, missing the two people that mattered most, but God will never give you more than you can handle. Your wife had a 20 year affair, and you believe it was none of her fault? Turns out my wife is co-dependent and her AP is a malignant narcissist; she was drawn to him like a moth to a flame. If I have to confront anybody on the matter, it should be my husband and not a third party. "I just finished Hope for Healing and am proud of the changes that I already feel in myself and my marriage. It's ours. People get ugly. I owe to my family and children though and will stand in my head to make things work. I attempted to make him feel guilty for treating my wife like a cheap tramp and explained to him that, unlike him, I loved her and would take care of her., etc., etc., etc. WebI confronted my wife's lover the morning after I found out. Make it CLEAR that you're aware of the truthbut be vague on details. The reason her job is a concern is because her lover is her boss where she works, an obvious no-no. If I confront her lover and we ended up fighting and I am badly injured, I am the one that will be ashamed. lol! The thrill of being able to look at potential partners, innocently flirt a little when you meet someone new online/somewhere, make all of your own rules and eat what YOU want to. You will never be able to trust her, you'll be constantly checking up on her, whenever you are apart you will be torturing yourself with what she may be doing what kind of marriage is that??? I promise. Again, no need to initiate much commentary on the bare facts. I wish i had never done this and had never said anything to my H. Just for my ducks in a row and left preserving my dignity. My husband claimed she called it off. Frustrating isn't the word for how I felt. I just give you my opinion from some real life experiences. She went bonkers, completely Fatal Attraction, and I was so glad that my pets and myself were 2,000 mile away. I didn't want any details from the AP - he was 15 years older, weak, and very unattractive. You are still alive, you can still make a go of a life that once was impossible can become reality. I thought she would move after he passed. I found out and he has been transparent with everything. I want to slap you! There are no kids and assets are minimal so that is not my concern. It is an opportunity. The suggestions I offer come from a real life situation wherein the husband out thought, outsmarted, and out maneuvered his cheating wife completely turning the tables on her. As soon as I told her, she didnt deny it, and soon acknowledged it. Your not a wimp for being cheated on or for being in shock at this discovery. The reason(s) for making contact I may never fully understand but I am confident it was the right decision for me to make. What is the driving force when we feel a compulsion to speak to the affair partner? What if I dont know him? They spoke in a similar way. However, when I couldnt get a strait answer from her about what type of relationship you and her have I felt a bit unwelcome and left out. spouse. Hope for Healing Registration Soon! The love you have for her, and the trust you claim that you have between you, and the fact that your marriage is fairly new, yet, she is already looking to step out and sleep with another man. The AP learned I was to be in town and called the police. What youre going through, is called the dreaded grief cycle. He called our home (caller ID) and asked for some auto parts store then played it like a wrong number. She is cheating within 1 year and you have no kids. I just need some answers and I am not getting them! 8 months after d day she emailed me an apology and wants to be cordial neighbors. Your wife does not respect you or your marriage. Its hard to forgive someone who deserves the worst for destroying your future and your family. Blessings to all the betrayed out there. The point is to get away from them both and stop giving your cheater and the affair partner your precious mental energy. I think we have to clear the air. What a s$%&show. I was trying for medical school, and my grades were pristine. A: What you experience is a natural emotion of jealousy and insecurity. Act absolutely normal with her, her relations, her friends, coworkers, and any mutual friends. Built their house on land we were supposed to and made sure to get married in the city we loved as a couple so thats wrecked for me. First of all, even if he did say these things, (which he claims he didn't, but who knows the truth) how could you look your married lover's wife, one who just lost a much wanted pregnancy, straight in the eye and make these claims to her? When the scales fall off his eyes, he will know his way home. I did learn some details from his wife after her conversations with him, however, that my wife had been lying about, which was helpful. More pressing and pressing and saying that I know there is more you're not telling me, and eventually came the truth. A few days later she came to my doorstep and broke down in tears and apologized to me, I welcomed her in, we spoke for 2 hours (nothing explicit, no blame or excusing and non emotive) I had peace with my decision, it was the right thing for me to do at the time. Regardless of I will confront my wife and not her lover. Don't participate in this humiliating game. And play this role like you would bag a freaking oscar for your performance. But she is liking photos his cousin is putting up of them fishing. I was done with him, what had I to say to her not my problem, not my problem, not my That is all. I am vindicated! It is better that I know him. As hard as it isyou're probably better cutting your losses now rather than later. A dreaded sinking feeling comes over you, is this the end? My wife has been acting very strangely, very distant over the last month, saying that she is confused and doesn't know what she wants from life. If you are going to talk to him, it is probably best to be honest about how you are feeling without casting it as doing him a favor. Worked in my case, but I get why you'd advise against it. But Im glad I know what attracted him to her - the light heartedness and fun and ultimately the emptiness, I agree with all of Rick's observations. She has been my best friend for over a decade, and has given me beautiful children, whom I adore. Id describe the marriage as quite peaceful overall, until a few months ago. My husbands job was about to dictate him to be working out of the town he and his AP spent time in on a two week gone one week home schedule for the next three months. Shes in LOVE with him. Before using the site, please read our Privacy Policy and Terms of Use. Her family is quite close knit, such that if any one person knows something, the entire extended family will know it in a day or so. Part of HuffPost News. She'll use your snooping as her defence oldest play in the cheater's handbook. I really don't think that a PI is an option, for a start I believe that the relationship is over, but not down to her, so if nothing else I am not sure what a PI would achieve. I wanted so much to see her as a victim because facing the truth that she chose of her own free will to betray me and risked the loss of our marriage to be with a 'man' who had abandoned her for 30 years was just too painful for me to admit. Can't you see you're dealing with an uber being? She hasn't. It taught him there wasnt a limit to what I could cope with - but yes she did turn to him for comfort and played the guilt card. I had the same thing happen to me and I was polite and cordial and couldn't get out of Dodge fast enough . Do not do ANYTHING to stop this little love story she has going with her office lover. Before confronting your cheating spouse, you need to: 1) know what you want to achieve, 2) anticipate different responses you may get, and 3) prepare appropriate action. I know I dont have to explain the devastation here. She then responded saying not to blame her blah blah. I remember commenting on your original post a while ago. Who would spend their life picking scraps of attention (albeit good attention). It still hurts and I need to move on. Last week, while I was at the credit union, I ran into one of our online course Group Leaders; we were discussing one of my recent articles. Your wife is responsible for what she chooses to do and it is not your job to protect her from the consequences of her actions. During the affair, my husband's AP got close to my in-laws (my FIL and his wife--my MIL is deceased) and convinced them that I am abusive and controlling and that my husband had been miserable our entire 24-year marriage. When it ces to the divorce, this is between you and her. His wife pleaded with me to not contact him until she could serve him with the divorce papers because being a very high profile person in our small town that if word got out it would ruin his reputation and he would have no reason to sign the papers that would have meant a very large settlement to her. I would have asked openhanded questions to see what his responses would be and compare them to what my wife said. Talking to the affair partner is comparing apples and oranges. You haven't even been M that long! His jig was officially up. Pointing and laughing? Leave it up to her to decide what to tell her family. It only shows he does not respect me. If you are going through it, I wish you faith, hope, and persistence. When she returns home with her cum stained panty underneath, please hug her again, and tell her how much you love her, and how she is the apple of your eye. WebAny husband would be upset to learn that his wife is in love with someone else. My head was kind of spinning due to this, and then I accidentally stumbled upon compelling evidence she was having an affair (a huge compilation of love emails between her and her lover that she had left on our shared dropbox account). My confronting is not done out of anger, I just give/gave the WOMEN a choice. First, she says she broke things off with her lover and wanted to know if there was any possibility of reconciliation. I just feel like this is the best solution to give me peace of mind. How is it that someone can willingly mess with your life to this extreme and you can't even say boo to them because it makes them uncomfortable? A person who doesnt live in reality. Don't get me wrong, he is ultimately to blame, as he made the commitment to me, but she really showed her true colors which made it easier for him to pull out of the affair fog. It's an exercise in futility. Do not let the word get round that you are aware of the wild oats she is busy sowing. Dont ever contact the ow . Good luck. To learn when registration opens back up, click the button below. No. I agree with this article. That it is normal. To outsmart her and pretend, while your team gets on her case. It was sweet. You must be logged in to reply to this topic. So after his wife sent many angry texts to me about my wife, I told her not to contact me again, referred her to this site and focus on her marriage. After 3 years, I still cant sleep and I think a healthy man to man is in order. Butbe prepared for her to deny and deny and deny until confronted with that proof. I will not fight for anything or give any reason to do that. What if you should meet up with her by chance? 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